It is often said that adoption is a secondary choice. An alternative option. The last resort. While this may be true for the countless number of couples facing infertility issues, it shouldn’t be the ONLY reason. If we relied only on couples facing infertility issues, there would never be enough couples to adopt the millions of children waiting for a home. We need more couples and we need them now.
How many of you have ever made the comment “I will adopt when my children are older.” How about, “I’ve thought about adoption, but I am just not sure,” only to have years go by with no action taken place. Well, the time is NOW! In fact, right now, there are more than 143 million orphans around the world, in need of care. Why is this our problem? Because we are Christians. Because God has called us specifically, to take action, and care for His children, our brother’s and sisters in Christ. God does not tell us to let the government take care of it. God does not say “Oh let their family members step in.” No. God calls Christians, to. “Take care of the widow and the orphan” (James )
So why aren’t we? How come there are more than 600 children, right here in BC, waiting for their forever families? Just by doing a simple phone book search, more than 2500 churches come up in BC. That means, that if one family in every 5 churches adopted from here in BC, right now, that number could drop down to zero. That doesn’t seem very hard does it? But that is not what is happening. Sure, maybe someone adopts today, then another couple a year down the road, and perhaps someone 2 years after that, but as time goes on, more kids come into care. The result is very little movement of children into their forever homes, but a continued movement of more children in need of an adoptive home. The only real way to have this problem solved would be to have the entire group of waiting children adopted into forever homes now, and additional families waiting for when a child comes into care. We need a backlog of sorts. We don’t want waiting children. We want waiting parents.
I think fear is a big reason so many couples are choosing not to adopt. With smaller family sizes than fifty years ago, the addition of another child can be a daunting thought. Not only that, the associated special needs and behavioural issues that are often associated with adopted children can cause people to shy away. What we need is more information: Something that breaks down the fears and allows people to feel equipped going into the adoption process. We also need faith. Faith that it is GOD who will get us through whatever trials may come along. I couldn’t handle half the things thrown my way if it wasn’t for my Heavenly Father. I am certainly not some special person who has a knack for children, or an amazing ability with special needs. When my husband and I first adopted we didn’t even know how to change a diaper, let alone everything else. But, as life happens, you learn. You figure things out. God guides you in the direction you need to go.
Awareness is also key. One hundred years ago children waiting to be adopted use to be assembled at the front of a church. Members waited in the pews, then shouted out who they could bring home. The problem was right in front of you. If you didn’t bring one of the waiting children home, you knew they had no where else to go. Nowadays, you have foster homes. There are no dilapidated orphanages and poor living conditions associated with 3rd world countries. But the problems still exist. Children who are left to be raised in the foster care system can have emotional problems, self esteem and identity issues, and a feeling of lack of belonging, etc. They too, can also undergo abuse and neglect from the several foster homes that exist merely for financial gain.
What if it was your child? What if you passed away, with no family members or friends? Would you want your child being raised in the foster care system? Or would you want them adopted into a loving, Christian home. I know I would want my child to feel love and belonging. The love of Christ!
This is just a look at kids waiting to be adopted here in
. It gets worse overseas. For example, kids waiting to be adopted in Canada , who have special needs, are often left in cribs, alone, for years, without any human contact. Once they are old enough, say 4 or 5, they are then transferred to insane asylums. Other orphanages leave their children in their own excrement, day in and day out, without the proper nutrition or care. Children are being brought home between the ages of 5-10 years old, weighing the same amount as a one year old infant. This should not be something that we as Christians, should be able to ignore. All it takes is one. Just one child. Think of how many lives we could affect if we each just adopted one child? I know we can do this. God knows we can do this. After all, “God sets the lonely in families.” (Psalm 68:5-6) All we have to do is take a leap of faith, and trust God that we can get through what He throws at us. Russia
“And whoever welcomes a little child like this in my name welcomes me.”
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6
The time is NOW!